If you are looking for a quick fix, marriage counseling is not the answer. If you are looking for positive change, improved mood and communication in your relationship, it may be.
I begin the article this way to dispel false claims and unrealistic expectations. In a world that is overrun with Internet and billboard messages about painless and easy self-improvement, I will not set you up for disappointment. Perhaps you are already turned off and stopped reading, but if you are in for lasting change your hard work might actually pay off.
I have been a Marriage and Relationship Therapist for over 30 years. The world keeps changing the skills we need to cope and be effective in our love, work and family lives may modify, but the basics about what makes people feel loved and valued in a relationship doesn’t.
Marriage Therapy is a process that can be short or long-term, but the skills you learn must be worked at long-term. So many people believe change isn’t possible, but giving up on a relationship, that you value dearly or perhaps once did is worth seeing if rehabilitation and growth is possible. In our relationships we are often stuck in a rut. We see our partners in a particular way, often negative and untrue. We get locked into unproductive arguments despairing, hardening our hearts and wondering if it can ever get better. Marriage Therapy is the beginning of learning a new love language. If you can take the first step and suspend your cynicism, you can with the help of an experienced and empathic Therapist, learn to listen and understand your partner. Your partner and you can be viewed in a new way. These new understandings can lead to changed behavior and communication and a feeling of happiness and joy.
If you would like to learn more about Marital Therapy, please contact me at 201‑445‑0550.