Susan forced herself out of bed. She was exhausted from another sleepless night due to a fight with John about her lack of desire. John was a decent guy, and a good father, but often nights ended up with him storming out of the bedroom and blaming her. When they were both leaving the house […]

Kindness and compassion are always essential for cultivating positive relationships. During these times of stress with no end date predicted, the challenges to tend our relationships increases. Listening to so many of my clients, and experiencing my own struggles I am struck with the simultaneous resilience and fragility individuals and their relationships evidence. Our moods […]

If you have great self-esteem, never fight with your spouse or feel disappointed during the holiday season, please don’t read any further. However, if the holidays are creating anxiety, headaches and concerns about marital tension and disconnection please do. Last week I sat in a counseling session with Susan and Bob. (All names have been […]

Tears, tension, hurt, anger and guarded hope fill my office when couples arrive after learning of an affair. Each situation is unique, but the intensity and fragility of emotions are often extremely powerful. After an affair, feelings of guilt, betrayal, and distrust permeate the connection. Whatever problems went unresolved before the affair now get muted […]

Is your relationship plagued with feeling undesired, suffering from sexual rejection or just feeling like you and your partner have become roommates? Desire discrepancies, sexual rejection or lack of intimacy can leave partners hurt, confused, angry and depressed. Talking about sexual issues and the myths that surround sexual expectations make these feelings difficult to discuss. […]

If you’re feeling, distant, lonely or lacking sexual desire, try to take action quickly. The greatest obstacle to improving relationship problems is waiting too long. It’s a lot easier to lose 10 or 15 lbs. than 40 or 50. Small problems and concerns are more quickly corrected than long-term distresses. Couples often hesitate bringing problems […]

So many of my clients sit across from me hurt, angry and confused. It has happened to them once again. This time they were sure they had made the right choice. Relationship disappointment can shatter one’s self-esteem and confidence. In this article, I hope to provide you with some thoughts, which might be helpful in […]

It might not sound like a giant leap forward, but after years Sally had finally asked Jake for a hug. (All names have been changed to maintain confidentiality) Years had passed and the gulf and tension between them had become chasm like until last week. They had been in counseling for several sessions and finally […]

I was talking to a dear friend earlier this morning. She was complaining about the frequent fights she and her husband had been having over the past six months. We commiserated together, as I had fought with my husband two nights ago (yes marriage therapists fight with their spouses also). We talked about the emotional […]

If you are looking for a quick fix, marriage counseling is not the answer. If you are looking for positive change, improved mood and communication in your relationship, it may be. I begin the article this way to dispel false claims and unrealistic expectations. In a world that is overrun with Internet and billboard messages […]